4 years ago, on this date, I became a wife. It's true what they say, time flies when you're having fun. Now, I could say that marriage is all love and hearts and fairy tale, but it's not like that 100 percent of the time. It's not like the movies...however I have found my happily ever after. AJ and I have an imperfect marriage and I don't expect it to be any different (he's taught me to be realistic). I've learned a lot about him and myself in the past 4 years. In the total time we've been together, we have both grown into what I like to believe, better people, because of each other. God placed him into my life and I wouldn't have guessed that this was where we were headed...however I'm so glad His plan is perfect. I know that no matter what life throws at us, we'll get through it together. When it comes down to it, what matters is trust and honesty and being able to depend on your significant other. I love AJ with my whole heart, and he is my best friend. At the end of the day, no matter how great or crappy it's been, I know that I'm ending it with him. There are many reasons why I love this man (who definitely knows how to drive me crazy) and I thought I'd share some of them.
For one, he can make me laugh until I can't breathe. It's important to laugh because life is not meant to be serious...all of the time. We have this joke, when we were on our honeymoon, we were listening to a comedian and I said I wondered what it would be like to have a comedian in the family. SO..whenever he really gets me going, that's what he says to me.
He helps around the house. That's right ladies...he does the vacuum, dishes, trash, mop, laundry, ironing...you name it! It really perturbs me when husbands don't help their wives with house chores because "that's a womanly duty." Seriously, this is the 21st century, and men are not above housework. Why spend a whole day doing housework when the two of you can cut the time in half? I know that if we have a son someday, that he will help his wife because AJ helps me, and that's important to me.
He likes to plan ahead to know if we will be together at dinnertime. Now, most of the time, this drives me insane because he'll ask me what time I'll be home and I'll say I don't know because how can one judge how long school work or (ahem...shopping) can take? But it means a lot to me that he cares about the time he spends with me. At least, that's what I'm telling myself...it's not so he can schedule a fishing or golf outing right?
He has stuff that he enjoys doing such as golf, fishing, and hunting. I love that we do things together but I love that we don't have to do everything together. I think an important part of marriage is enjoying things separately as well as together. Otherwise...wouldn't you run out of things to talk about? Also, it gives me something to give him a hard time about because we don't see trophy winning deer or turkey or "keeper" fish too often. ;0) LOL.
He is a Godly man. He seeks a relationship with our Lord and Savior and he realizes that all good things come through knowing Christ Jesus. I love that it's important to him to give to God. I love that he recognizes the good that God has given us, and the tough that he's pulled us through. I know, that in our parenting, he will put his relationship with his daughter in God's hands.
He is going to be an AMAZING Dad. I know that once our sweet girl gets here, that's no hope for him. He's going to be so in love; and I in love with him for that reason. I know that he will protect her with his life and he will love her with everything he's got for the rest of his. I know he'll help her practice catching a softball, encourage her to do what she loves and to always try her best, and I bet he'll make one adorable princess (you know if she asks him to play dress-up...mommy might have a hand in that).
He keeps my feet planted on the ground. I am a dreamer and a firm believer that things will all work out with little to no effort. He reminds me sometimes that I might not be thinking realistically and he's taught me to get my head out of the clouds... when needed.
He loves to experience new places and that's a passion we share. He acts like a little kid in a candy shop when we go on vacation. I have big plans for us when we retire...yes, I'm aware of how far away that is...but a girl can dream right? LOL...see previous point.
He works hard, he's a goal setting driven individual who wants to succeed in life. This is an important characteristic that I want our child(ren) to possess as well. He has a desire to provide for our family and while he can sometimes worry about this a little too much, he's doing a great job.
The other night, at 11:11, he said...it's 11:11 make a wish. I told him that I didn't have anything to wish for, that I couldn't be more happy than I am right now. I thank God for all of it because God gave me AJ. Happy anniversary, my love, 4 years and counting...and they keep getting better!
